Fleshlights were conceived by one man during the pregnancy state of his wife. Being highly sexed, he was looking for a replacement as they were informed by their doctor not to have intercourse. This was back in 1995, and from the early days, it took 2 years before production finally began.
Ever since then, the discretion of the fleshlight was one of the prime motives, aside from delivering the most realistic sexual sensations among penis toys. The inventor succeeded on both counts, and through lots of trial and error. And once the fleshlight was born, it was the first fake vagina to be mass-produced that delivered realistic sensations. It was also unique because it came in a hard outer case that was shaped like a flashlight.
Since then, there have been other variations from the original company model, and new sleeves developed to deliver new sensations, many of which are molded on famous porn actresses. There are a few variations from different manufacturers, but a fleshlight will always remain a fleshlight, and they are very rarely equaled in what they deliver. One of the main secrets to the success of the fleshlight is the suction it provides each time you try withdrawing the penis. This produces the best suction experience on top of the very realistic feeling that they deliver. With these, it’s easy to see why they are such a success and took the ‘world of masturbation for men’ by storm.
What is a Fleshlight?
These are shaped like a flashlight, and once the cap is unscrewed, it reveals the inner sleeve which resembles a woman’s vagina. They are designed in such a way that when a man masturbates using these, they receive the same sensations as if they are having sexual intercourse.
The fleshlights are fully waterproof, so men can easily take these into the shower or the bathtub and have some self-gratification with no worries of damaging their sex toy. And because of their exterior design, they are discreet and can easily be thrown into a bag with no one being any wiser that a male sex toy is being carried around, which makes them one of the most popular sex toys for men.
The inner sleeve, which was molded from a real woman’s anatomy, is soft, flexible and very realistic to the touch. Deep inside the internal channel, there are nodules, and the depth of the device should accommodate the longest of penises.
Since the original device was created, there have been modifications, and they now come with inner parts which are molded from porn star’s genitalia.
Newer models now come with a suction function that simulates oral sex for the user, just to give another dimension to what looks like an inconspicuous flashlight.
One of the later models is coined as a ‘stamina training unit.’ This is tighter and packed full of inner ribs and bumps to help build up stamina before ejaculation. It fully replicates the feelings of intercourse, and with regular use, it can help sexual activity last longer. It helps men to sustain ejaculation and can aid in prolonging it, if used for that purpose.
Benefits of Fleshlights
Fleshlights come with unique benefits for males. Masturbation is said to improve the function of the prostate and the pelvic floor muscles too. So, with regular masturbation using a fleshlight, both of these will get the workout they need. This helps men who suffer from erectile dysfunction.
Stress can also be reduced because when men ejaculate, the body is flooded with feel-good hormones. This can lift the mood and make them feel happier while lowering stress levels at the same time. Fleshlights introduced the stamina training kit. This can help men who suffer from premature ejaculation, or for ones who wish to last longer in bed before ejaculation. Sexual performance can be significantly improved by regular masturbation with this model of fleshlight.
Fleshlights replicate sexual intercourse, and this they do probably better than many other products on the market. Not only can vaginal intercourse be copied, but they now deliver oral or anal sex sensations which are as close to the real thing as men can get via the use of sex toys.
The stimulation received from using a fleshlight is far ahead of masturbation with the hand. On occasions, it can be hard to get and maintain an erection through regular masturbation, but this is never a problem using fleshlights for discrete masturbation.
Fleshlights also allow men to have a simulated one nightstand. Masturbation with something that really feels like a vagina can vastly improve the experience and also allow men to seek a different type of pleasure.
One benefit that many users are unaware of is the end cap; this can be twisted in one direction or the other. This can increase or decrease suction as you thrust inside the fleshlight.
Fleshlights are also suitable for use in the comfort of the bed or any other location, and they are equally great for use in the shower or the bathtub too. This is very different from other soft materials, as fleshlights don’t absorb moisture like other pocket pussies will.
Different Fleshlight Types
With fleshlights, you can change the inner sleeve. This gives you the opportunity to experience very different sensations or interchange orifices if you so wish. Here are some of the groups of fleshlights you can find:
- ‘Sex in a can’ made fleshlights: These are smaller than a regular fleshlight and are a vagina in a beer can. These still deliver the same fantastic sensations you can receive from a regular fleshlight
- Fleshlight training kits: This is designed to help men last longer before ejaculation. It does take self control though, and this is because it delivers intense stimulation. They are intended to push any man to the edge where he can hang on before finishing, and thus improve added sexual performance as a gain.
- Butt fleshlights: These are designed as an anus, and like all other fleshlights, they deliver the ultimate experience. And in this case, it’s the simulation of anal sex.
- Oral sex fleshlights: These are designed to deliver the best fake oral sex experience. While they are unable to be the same as a warm mouth, they do come a very close second.
- Tight fit fleshlights: These are designed for the guy who enjoys the tight-fitting feeling. Aside from that, they’re also suitable for the guy who has a smaller penis, and when a larger sleeve doesn’t deliver the same amount of stimulation.
- Fleshlight girls: These are a full range of fleshlights that are modeled and molded on female porn actresses. Why does any man need a fake vagina when they can have one that’s molded from a real woman?
- Big fleshlights: Even guys who are well endowed like to masturbate. Although the casing might not be as discrete, these are well-designed with the guy and his larger penis in mind.
- Vibrating fleshlights: With plenty of stimulation for the realistic sleeves, things hit new levels with added vibrations. Fleshlights now come with vibrating motors to keep on delivering unique sensations.
- Alien fleshlights: For ‘out of this world’ experiences, there are some exotic models in production. Along with aliens, there are also freak fleshlights that are more monstrous in design.
The choice of materials in the use of fleshlights is very limited, and in most cases, they are constructed from only two materials. The original formula is patented as SuperSkin. The formula for this is a trade secret.
SuperSkin is phthalate free and non-toxic. This means it’s body safe for most male users. It’s soft and supple too, which delivers the most unique feeling that replicates the human skin. The only downside to this material is that it can’t be thoroughly sterilized like some other materials can, but it can be easily cleaned. There is also no odor or taste from this compound creation. The fleshlight material is also suitable for use around water; this alone makes it unique when compared to other materials that are made to replicate vaginas.
The outer case is made from ABS plastic; this is also body safe and non-toxic. This can’t be sterilized, but it’s non-porous and is very easy to clean. ABS (acrylonitrile butadiene styrene) is durable and takes very little care to keep clean. This comes with no added phthalates and no odor or taste.
While many sex toys can be washed in warm soapy water, the company recommends not using soap, and the best way to sanitize the sleeves is to use isopropyl alcohol.
As an aside, they also recommend water based lubes to be used, as oil based will degrade the material inside the sleeves. If this happens, it can be easy for bacteria to take hold, and as they encase the penis, this bacterium can quickly be passed back into the body.
How to Choose the Right Fleshlight for You
Although fleshlights are all very similar, there are a few things to consider in your purchase. There are types that will attract all men with their various designs, but here are the main things you need to ponder over.
Penis length and girth: Girth is just as important as length. This is because of the internal diameters of the sleeves. If the inner size is too small, then it can cause discomfort, and if it’s too large, you will be missing out on the incredible sensations you can receive. Fleshlights do have various sections which you can choose from.
Color options: There are three basic colors you can choose from. These being pink, ice or mocha. Pink is more popular as this gives the look of a real vagina, as does the mocha for the men who like their skin color on the darker side.
Ice is transparent, and you can get this in a clear case. This allows the user to see what’s happening with their penis during masturbation, for that real, voyeuristic experience.
Fleshlight openings: Not all men want the experience of a realistic vagina. There are also mouth and anus openings available if you desire something different. The anus sleeve is the tightest of all three, while the vaginal sheath has the largest opening. On top of this, there are fleshlights that are designed to look like the female porn stars they are molded from. You may think they are representations, but these are actual, original moldings from their vaginas.
There are many sensations available from fleshlights. These come in textured or smooth, and they will deliver very unique experiences.
The common texture types are as follows:
- Original – smooth: 3/4 inch internal diameter
- STU – stamina training unit; textured; 1/2 inch inner diameter
- Wonder Wave – textured: 1/2 inch inner diameter
- Super ribbed – textured: 1/2 inch inner diameter
- Speed bump – textured: 1/2 inch inner diameter
- Super tight – smooth: 1/2 inch internal diameter
- Ultra tight – smooth: 1/4 inch inner diameter
Can Fleshlights Last a Long Time?
Companies state that fleshlights can last a lifetime, but in reality, this doesn’t happen because of wear and tear. If cleaned and preserved correctly, they can last years with no real side effects, but with removing and reinserting into the case repeatedly, it is possible to get micro tears in the fabric. This is the most common reason fleshlights meet the end of their life, more quickly than is expected.
It is crucial to follow the manufacturer's recommendations, and when doing this, you can get years of service and pleasure from your fleshlight.
Once you follow the recommended cleaning advice from the manufacturer, the primary way to preserve a fleshlight is by using the recommended renewal powder. This is cornstarch, so you can easily swap this for regular cornstarch from the grocery store if you need to. This should only be added when the inside of your fleshlight is totally dry.
Fleshlights can last for years, but by then you might be looking for a change of sensation and decide on purchasing another. It’s fun to have a range anyway.
One thing users might not realize they need to do before using a fleshlight, is to remove it from its case and warm it up with warm water, and this can take around 20 minutes to do.
Cleaning & Storage Tips
Washing your fleshlight is as simple as removing it from the outer case and rinsing it under warm water. After this, they should be air dried thoroughly. You can purchase toy cleaner, and also a powder which is used to help preserve the inner sleeve. Both of these are highly recommended purchases.
Many vibrator types should be kept away from areas where there are dust and fluff, and fleshlights are no exception. The sleeve material does feel sticky when it isn’t lubricated enough, and this can cause lint or other debris to stick to it.
Keeping them in their outer case is advised once they are dry. This will stop the attraction of said lint and the possible growth of bacteria and mold.
Because a fleshlight has its own case, the need to keep them away from other sex toys is minimized, although recommended. Although, keeping them in a cool and dry area should be carried out as a matter of necessity too.
After each use, the sleeve must be removed from the case so the case can be washed with warm soapy water. The suction cup at the bottom should receive the most attention because this is where most of the ejaculation fluid accumulates.
You then need to get your fingers inside the sleeve and scoop out any remains before filling the sleeve with water and shaking vigorously. The sleeve then needs to be sprayed with the official fleshlight cleaner. When storing, the end caps should be left loose so air can circulate inside the outer case.Some Safety Considerations
While there are safety considerations to consider, fleshlights have been designed to be safe. All the materials are body safe, so there should be no interactions with sensitive skin.
Lubrication can be seen as one of the main things you’ll have to consider. If you have a fleshlight which is of the tighter design, this could lead to pain and chafing if you haven’t applied enough lube to the channel, and to your penis. With the numerous bumps and nodules, this can cause unnecessary rubbing. So watch out for that.
Some of the newer models also come with battery powered eggs which provide vibrations. And although these are sealed to keep moisture out, care should be taken if used around excessive amounts of water.
Batteries should also be removed from these between uses to protect the housing, and in case any of the batteries leak.
Another area is the material that the inner sleeves are made from. This is a secret, so it is hard to say what cleaners should and shouldn’t be used. The manufacturer does tell users to keep soap away from the inner sleeve because this will break down the material. With this in mind, you should always check the sleeves for any sign of wear or cracks in the material, because this can become a breeding ground for bacteria.
One thing which might be missed by eager users of their new fleshlights, is to remove the plastic tube from the inside channel before using. This is there to stop the material from sticking together during storage and transport only.
Common Questions People Ask
How can I use my fleshlight hands-free?
The most well-known method is the shoe method. You place your fleshlight in a shoe and insert your penis as if you were having sex in the missionary position. Sometimes you can place it in between a high set of mattresses too.
Why should I purchase a fleshlight?
You can use a fleshlight in any situation where you would use your hand, be it watching porn or laying on your bed daydreaming. It can also introduce sensitivity back into your penis after years of manual masturbation with your hand and also help you delay your ejaculation, with practice; if that’s your goal.
Which fleshlight do you recommend for a short penis?
Because there are so many sleeve types available, you should check one which has a texture that starts toward the fleshlight opening. Also, if you can see which ones have the same texture all the way down the channel, then you will get the same stimulation down the length of your shaft too.
What are fleshlights made from?
The actual material is a closely guarded secret. The name of the material is SuperSkinNo. No other products in the sex toy market are made with the same material. It is for this reason that fleshlights are unique and are adored by millions of satisfied men around the world. How many will you buy? That’s really the only question here.
Additional Things to Consider
One of the first things which needs considering is that: a fleshlight can’t be used for quick masturbation. They need warming up beforehand. There are two ways of doing this. So here, you can soak it in warm water or hot water --but the microwave should never be used.
Once it’s warm and inserted back into the plastic sleeve, you need to add a generous amount of lubrication. Water-based ones are advised by the fleshlight company. If you think that soaking it in warm water is too much effort, you can get insertable heating rods. These are quickly slid inside the opening and will plug into any USB socket.
When it comes to cleaning a fleshlight, this is a little different and shouldn’t be forgotten as it can spoil the surface of the sleeve. Soap should never be used, and this material isn’t supposed to be sterilized. Instead, you can wipe it down with isopropyl alcohol. To wash, the recommended way is to cool-run water through the sleeve. You do need to make sure you remove all traces of semen that may have accumulated inside.
You also need to know that they must be thoroughly dry before storing, and this means inside as well as outside. You can do this by passing a lint-free cloth through the channel.
Some users find that the sleeve becomes sticky after use. And while you may think there’s something wrong with your fleshlight, it is natural, and it can require covering in renewal powder. This is recommended, but it will remove any shiny appearance the sleeve has around its opening.
You can purchase different sleeves separately and use the same case too. However, this can make storage more difficult, as lint or dust can be attracted and stick to the sleeve.
While looking for cons of using a fleshlight, there are not many at all. The most significant being the cleaning aspect. They do take some care to keep them in the best condition, but if you follow the recommendations correctly, they can last for years.
One final thing you need to consider is: the cost and your budget. Although fleshlights deliver the ultimate in masturbation experience, they are far from the cheapest sex toys for men on the market. They do take a considerable investment for something that’s only used for masturbation. But… most guys who have one will tell you that they’re way worth every penny spent! Some guys even have multiple fleshlights!