Strap Ons

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What Are Strap Ons?

Strap ons are sex toys which can be worn and used as a real penis. These contraptions will sit around the waist and hips as a harness, and hold a dildo or vibrator in some form.

The harness comes with a ring where the dildo or vibrator is slotted through and held securely in place. There will be a rubber ring that delivers the tension and sits around the shaft base which then connects to the harness.

There are some variations, but the function is the same, and the appendage is there to simulate intercourse or penetration from a penis.

The thing with strap ons nowadays, is that any gender can use them. From what was once a ‘lesbian only’ sex toy, to now, where they are being used by both genders.

Now there are penis attachments that are hollow for men to wear. These give a much larger penis and can be used on both male or female partners. Additionally, there are many couples where the female wears a strap on, and she penetrates her male partner. This is commonly known as “pegging” and is becoming ever more popular in the modern world of sexual play.

Strap ons in some instances are used for males with erectile problems. This can help them go through the motions of pleasing their partner through intercourse, where usually they wouldn’t be able to.

Different Types & Styles

While strap ons are used mainly to perform one function, there are a few different types users can choose from. Here is a quick rundown of the various types users can choose…

  • Strap-on harnesses – These are the belts that are used to hold the appendage in place. Without this, there would be no way for a woman to take on the male role and perform penetration. With strap-on harnesses, there are also a few variations. The three-strap jock, a two strap G-string, corset and underwear, or lingerie harnesses.
  • Strap-on dildos – These are very similar to a regular dildo and can be used as such when the strap-on harness isn’t in use. The only difference being; they have the fitting at the base of the shaft so they can be held in place. These can come in all manner of shapes, sizes and realism, to fully replicate the male penis. Some strap-on dildos also come with a separate attachment that allows the wearer to perform double penetration on their partner too.
  • Vibrating strap-ons – These can look and feel the same as a regular dildo, or they can be smoother and won’t focus as much on realism, yet they do concentrate on stimulation. In fact, these vibrating strap-ons have built-in motors that send vibrations as the wearer performs penetration. Some models even come double-ended, so the wearer can slip one end into her vagina and receive the same sensations as she takes on the male role.
  • Hollow strap-ons – These hollow strap-ons can be worn with or without an erection. This enables them to be worn by men who suffer from erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. Even for men who have no problems, these hollow strap-ons allow them to perform the penetration of their partner for longer, and this is because they will lose all of the sensations that drive them toward ejaculation. Many of these hollow strap-ons are used as penis extenders to please their partner who is seeking a bigger penis thrill, or as another feeling inside to change things up a little.

How to Choose Strap-On Sex Toys for You

When looking to choose a strap on sex toy, there are considerations to make. To a certain degree, the strap on sex toy may not actually be for you, and it is your partner who you’ll need to consider. However, some things need thinking about and are different from purchasing other sex toys.

It can be a substantial investment to purchase the correct harness and the right dildo. This can take considerable time and money. In some cases, you can choose a harness only to find it doesn’t fit very well and doesn’t provide much comfort.

Getting what you pay for holds true in most cases, so there is no reason to choose cheaper variations because they will not be designed or made with comfort as a priority. When purchasing harnesses, it does help to measure yourself first if you’re the wearer, or your partner, if they’ll be wearing it.

Here are a few harness purchasing tips you can follow:

Look for an adjustable harness which comes in a comfortable material such as leather or nylon. It should deliver a snug fit to provide control over your dildo. With the adjustable straps, you can get the right fit to hold the dildo in the right position.

Some strap-on harnesses allow different sized dildos to be used, while others can only accommodate specific sizes, so be sure your harness matches your dildo, or vice versa.

While some dildos come double ended, there are harnesses which come with built in bullet vibrators. You won’t feel any stimulation from wearing a strap-on harness, but these bullets can be an excellent addition.

There are also a few strap-on dildo tips you can follow:

Pick with your partner, here you can ask them to choose the dildo to their preferences as they will be on the receiving end.

The dildo needs to be durable and made from body safe materials.

Some wearers of strap-on harnesses connect with having a penis. You can also purchase soft dildos which can be worn all day, too. Wearing these is termed “packing,” and they are meant to resemble flaccid penises as part of gender association, role play and/or fetishes.

What Are the Benefits

In the case of a female wearer, it allows her to take on a dominant or male role with a female partner. Before there were strap ons, there was no way they could simulate natural styles of intercourse, and the closest they could achieve was maybe by using a double-ended dildo. Now, a strap on sex toy can be worn, and her dream or fantasies can be fulfilled.

Likewise, there are growing numbers of couples who are trying out pegging. This is where the female gets to anally penetrate her male partner. Before, it may be the case she could only perform anal penetration with an anal toy, but now she can perform anal sex too.

The next benefits fall onto male wearers. If a man suffers from premature ejaculation, he can wear a hollow strap-on, and go through the motions of sexual intercourse with no worry he will be pushed over the edge from overstimulation. He can wear the device, and as he does this, he can mentally adjust and possibly overcome the cause for his premature ejaculation problems.

In a similar scenario, some men suffer from erectile problems. They may have this because of psychological problems or because of physical issues (or both), and wearing a strap on sex toy can help to overcome their mental blockage and also help to physically achieve the outcome required, in many instances.

Some Safety Considerations

Strap ons deliver some unique safety considerations because there are a few more variables in play. Depending on the dildo or the vibrator in use, these will have their own sets of safety precautions. Because the wearer has no sensation, a dildo or vibrator could be too large and cause some pain for the receiver.

A harness can come with lots of buckles and straps, and if these don’t fit in the correct positions, they could either push in to the wearer's body or rub against the partner who they are performing penetration on.

It’s really essential to have a harness that is snug fitting, making sure that all of the buckles are in a position where they won’t cause any harm. Circulation can also be a problem with a harness too, as some users fasten the straps too tightly in an attempt to keep the dildo in position.

Communication with your partner is vital. There is no perfect way for a wearer to know what is happening while wearing a fake penis. Discussion needs to be both ways, and it can mean asking questions while performing penetration. A close eye on body language will also be required so that the wearer can gain some insight into how their partner is feeling.

Lubrication is crucial, and there can be more excessive thrusting while wearing a strap on, compared to using a dildo manually. Reapplying lube during penetration will be necessary, especially if the strap on is being used for anal sex.

Where Can You Use Your Strap Ons?

Strap ons can be used in all manner areas, and it isn’t just vaginal penetration of another female. There does still need to be lots of foreplay before any hint of penetration.

One of the hottest things users of straps ons find is: if their partner gives the strap on oral sex. Yep, and this can be a real turn-on for the wearer of the harness too. This delivers more connection with the device for the wearer, and in a way, stops it feeling like it’s something that’s only being worn. It can be super sexy, dominating a partner, especially if the gender roles are reversed.

In female relationships, there is all manner of positions a strap on can be used, and half of the fun will be experimentation of what can and what can’t be achieved. There is also the fact that some positions might not be comfortable for the receiver, so bear that in mind.

Many women who take to strap ons have more than one to fit various scenarios. Leather isn’t so good when it comes to water, but if you find one suitable, and a dildo which is waterproof (silicone), then you can take your strap on into the shower, the bathtub, a private pool, or even outside during the rain.

Pegging is becoming more popular, and this can be the ultimate, intimate scenario between a male and female in a relationship. She straps on her harness and then he succumbs and becomes the bottom partner as she takes the top role and performs anal sex on him. It’s also worth noting that: for anal, you do need a strap-on dildo that is thinner and easier to insert into the rectum. Buy an anal one for this scenario.

Cleaning & Storage Tips

The dildos will need the same attention when it comes to cleaning and care. Because you are advised to stick to silicone, these can be rinsed under warm water with a mild antibacterial soap. These can then be sterilized in boiling water, or in the dishwashing machine. This is more crucial if the strap-on dildo has been used for anal penetration.

The soft surface might feel tacky when dry. Cover the dildo in renewal powder to return it back to its slippery, soft feel. The dildo should then be stored in a cool, dry place.

Care for the harness will depend on the material in use. But, as these are not used in any part of the penetration, they won’t be as dirty. Many can be wiped down with a clean cloth and mild soap. And for leather, you can purchase leather soap that will help to keep it supple.

When storing a harness, you should either hang it or lay it flat, so no creases begin forming in the material.

Common Questions People Ask

What pleasure will I receive wearing strap-on sex toys?

This all depends on the type of strap-on sex toy that you wear. You can have a vibrating one that will stimulate the clit, or in many women, they are happy with the feeling of power they now have, by filling a male or dominant role.

Will the dildo on the strap on stand up like a real erection?

Not really, erections stand erect because of blood and muscle tissue. Dildos will rest against the wearer's body and hang horizontally (in most cases). It will take some manual maneuvering to insert into a partner. Also, as there are no sensations, be careful you actually get the orifice you are aiming for. Yep, reread that part!