Strap On Harnesses

What Are Strap-On Harnesses?

For many reasons, strap on sex toys are pretty popular between both sexes, and more people are flooding to buy and use them daily. When in use, it’s the dildo part which is used for penetration, but if it weren’t for the strap-on harness, it would just be a regular dildo.

These harnesses are the part of a strap on which can be the most important. It’s their job to hold the dildo or vibrator close to the body so the female or male can perform penetration on their partner. In most cases, these are gender neutral, but there might be a bit of a difference in sizing.

The one thing that stands out for strap-on harnesses is the fact that they allow hands-free sex for women. And in the past, before the option was available, they would need to manually stimulate their partner with their hand and a dildo or a vibrator.

Like all other sex toys for adults, different types fill the basic needs, or there are some who go that little bit further to deliver something extra. It’s all up to the wearer and the receiver, really.

Types of Strap-On Harnesses

From what used to be a basic design has now evolved, and now there are many types of strap-on harnesses available. These come in many different designs and materials.

Before looking at the types of strap-on harnesses, it’s worth mentioning the types of locking fixtures they come with, because without these, or without the correct one, you could ruin your entire experience.

O-ring fixture: Here, the inner ring can be made from steel or strong rubber, silicone, or others. These softer models allow for a more significant number of dildos to be used with the harness, and this is because the ring is adaptable to different sizes. Some of them allow O-rings to be changed so a differently-sized dildo can be used.

Vac-U-Lock: This is a patented design by one of the top sex toy manufacturers. In this model, there is a peg that has ridges that protrude from the front of the harness, and the dildo slides and locks onto this peg. For this type, there are only certain dildos which are compatible. However, dildos designed for this fastening system can work with the O-ring method of fastening (if they come with a flared base or they have the inclusion of a flared base attachment).

Now, without further adieu, here is a quick overview of the different types of strap-on harnesses you can find…

Double strap harnesses – These have the most familiar type of design because it delivers high amounts of comfort and stability. These are also suitable for men to wear.

G-string harnesses – In these models, the G-string will vary in width and can be created from a thin strand all the way to a thick strap. Although the thicker strap may be more uncomfortable, they do give more control.

Corset harnesses – These are a variation of the double strap harnesses where around the waist is modeled to look like lingerie. Although they may appear more elegant, they can be just as sturdy as the double strap harnesses are.

Underwear harnesses – These deliver the most comfort as they are like underwear. These also add spontaneity because they can be worn underneath clothing, and so they may be used at any time. The downside with this is; they come with less control, but they are well-liked nevertheless.

Lingerie harnesses – Similar to the underwear or panty harnesses, these types allow garters to be worn. These present a covered dildo base and also vibrating bullet pockets. This type almost gives as much control as the double strap harnesses do.

Vibrator harnesses – These allow for hands free penetration with a vibrating unit as they are penetrating with either a penis or a dildo.

Harness sets – These are an all-in-one solution for beginners and come ready with a fitted dildo. You can change these at a later stage.

Thigh and arm harnesses – These harnesses offer some versatility. While not worn around the waist, they are worn around the leg or the arm. This allows for unique penetration scenarios. They can also be fastened around furniture to allow masturbation to occur.

How to Choose the Best Strap-On Dildo Harness for You

As there are so many choices of dildo harnesses available, a lot is down to preference and how serious you are about using such a device. If you are really in the mood to take on a male role, then you will (more than likely) be opting for the model which gives the most control, hence the double strap harness. But, if you are out for light fun, you can opt for the most basic and choose the underwear variety for sporadic pleasure. However, there are still things you need to consider when buying any type of dildo harness.

Size is crucial really, because unless you have a snug fit from whatever model of harness you buy, you will lose the control, and the experience for both of you could be ruined. Also, you need to make sure the harness doesn’t go too tight because it can restrict circulation if it’s not placed correctly.

You then have the material to consider, and because this will be tight and against the bare skin, it can cause irritation with extended wear. You can wear them over a pair of boxer shorts if you find it rough against your skin. The more common materials are either leather or nylon, but with the other varieties, you can also find harnesses made from fabric or rubber too. The showcase of viable materials seems to increase over time.

What Are the Benefits

The benefits of strap-on harnesses are how good they hold strap-on dildos in place for the wearer to perform penetration on their partner. Or in the case of the thigh and arm harness (which can be fastened around furniture), it’s how well they hold a dildo in place to perform the fulfillment of masturbation.

Each type can have great benefits, but the double strap harness provides the most as it’s the more robust and doesn’t move around too much once the dildo is connected. Aside from this, the wearer can concentrate on carrying out penetration, rather than being overly worried that the dildo is about to slip out.

As a few of these strap-on harnesses can be worn by men, they open up different avenues while they’re with their partner. Now, they can be used in double penetration scenarios where a dildo is worn along with the penis of the male partner tending to one of the other orifices.

Here, dildos can be used in very different ways, and this doesn’t matter on the gender of the users. The only limiting factor is imagination, and the right harness to meet the needs of the job at hand. Buy a few to try them out, so then you’ll be able to compare them during your strap on adventure!

Some Safety Considerations

Caution should be taken with how tight any of the straps or fittings are on any strap-on harness. As they fasten under the body in most cases, there are major arteries that can have blood flow restricted without realizing. This being said, most of the more reliable companies who supply these strap-on harnesses will make sure they can’t be overly tightened. This is why it’s crucial to choose the right size to begin with.

Other things to be wary of are the fittings which hold the dildo in place. If any of these begin to get sharp or have rough edges, these can stick in to your partner quite easily. While most of these harnesses come without metal buckles, there may be some models that are used toward the fetish end of the market, and steel buckles are one of the main features. Be careful here.

The more significant safety aspects come from using the dildo and not the harness itself. The wearer won’t be getting any feedback, physically speaking, so it will be down to constant communication about how the receiving partner feels. Finally, every dildo that is used with a harness still needs copious amounts of lubrication before they are used for penetration. If in doubt, add more lube.

Where Can You Use a Strap-On Harness

Strap-on harnesses and dildos are used as a means of prolonging intercourse. When he wears the appropriate type of dildo that is hollow, he can still penetrate his partner, and as he lacks any penis sensations, the couple can continue lovemaking for longer. He can do this until his partner is ready for him to penetrate with his penis.

Men with erectile dysfunction can also use a strap-on harness with a dildo, he can then go through the motions of penetration, and hopefully he can reach an erection from going through the motions of intercourse too.

Pegging is on the rise, and there are countless male partners who are keen on receiving prostate massage. They can now do this hands free, rather than needing to use a suitable, manual, prostate massager or dildo.

Oral sex can be carried out when couples find it a visual turn-on to see their partners performing oral sex to a strap-on dildo.

Sexy female to female sex can occur, where the wearer of the harness will use the harness and dildo for anal, vaginal or oral pleasure.

Male to male sex can be similar; where one man chooses to wear a strap-on harness and perform anal or oral penetration on his partner.

Finally, there is masturbation. This is where the thigh or arm harness comes into play. These can be secured to a pillow or a chair where the user then thrusts or rides against the dildo and the harness.

Cleaning & Storage Tips

When you own a strap-on dildo harness, there is very little you need to do to care for them, in most cases. But, depending on the material in use, this can dictate what you can do to clean them.

Leather, for instance, is almost impossible to sterilize. When it comes to washing, you need a high-quality saddle soap, or you can use hot soapy water. After washing, the leather will need conditioning because it is prone to cracking and going stiff.

When you have the underwear variety of a strap-on dildo harness, or a nylon one, these can be placed inside the washing machine to clean. When doing so, it’s better to use a lingerie bag so they won’t tangle with other clothes.

One thing you should never do with these materials is: to place them in the dryer as a way to dry them quicker. Nylon can melt in a dryer and cloth or fabric harnesses can shrink.

Once they are cleaned and dried, you should store them in a sealed bag to prevent dust or lint from settling on them. Also, keep them in a cool and dry place out of direct sunlight.

Common Questions People Ask

What happens if I want to use a larger dildo on my harness?

Depending on where you get your strap-on harness from, there are many which allow for different sized O-rings to fit, and these can be changed as you wish. When buying, be sure to check that the O-ring can be changed otherwise this can cut down on the choice of the dildos you can use.

What’s the ideal size O-ring for pegging my husband?

Unless he is experienced in anal play, you’re better off starting small, so the O-ring size that will fit these thinner dildos will be around a 1.25 inch O-ring. Make sure this is interchangeable in case your husband wants to move to big or huge dildos later on. You want the experience to benefit him, so size will definitely matter. If unsure, buy a few different sizes to try out. He’ll tell you which one he prefers.